“Don’t say true things if they’re not nice
Don’t say nice things if they’re not true”
— From a Sanskrit Subhashita (via Navin Kabra)
(The wisdom in the above subhashita is good as a general guiding principle, but I do not think it should be universally practiced in all circumstances. Sometimes, as a friend, one should say true things even if they’re not nice.)
Sometimes, I regret what I said.
Sometimes, I regret what I did not say.
Saying something sometimes requires courage.
Not saying something sometimes requires even greater courage.
Most people are judged by what they say.
Very few are judged by what they did not say.
History remembers you by what you said.
No one remembers you by what you did not say.
What you say is a quick, direct, reflection of who you are.
What you do not say is a difficult, indirect, reflection of who you are.
What you say is often not a true reflection of who you are.
What you do not say is often a very true reflection of who you are.
Saying often eases further communication, but sometimes, it also impedes it.
Leaving something unsaid sometimes eases further communication.
The fool is one who is identified by what he said.
The wise one is who remains unidentified by what he did not say.