Applying Circle of Concern — Circle of Influence

I’m very fond of one of Stephen Covey’s insights regard­ing the Cir­cle of Con­cern and Cir­cle of Influ­ence.

Today morn­ing, both my wife and I were extreme­ly hur­ried and busy get­ting ready to leave. Our 5-month old baby daugh­ter was for­tu­nate­ly peace­ful­ly sleep­ing as we scur­ried around the house.

Sud­den­ly, our neigh­bors start­ed play­ing the lat­est pop music that blared through their xyz-watt sound sys­tem, and our daugh­ter woke up, cry­ing.

This was the last thing we want­ed. I was get­ting late to work, and this morn­ing time is typ­i­cal­ly stress­ful.
Our attempts to com­fort our daugh­ter were in vain. Trapped in the Cir­cle of Con­cern, we sim­ply voiced
our dis­gust at our neigh­bors.

Then the switch hap­pened. Even when I couldn’t bear our child’s increas­ing­ly loud­er cries, I became calm.
I closed all the doors and win­dows from where the sound was com­ing. Even if I couldn’t shut it out, it def­i­nite­ly
went down in vol­ume. After a few com­fort­ing min­utes lat­er, she slept again.

I know, what a sim­ple nar­ra­tive from dai­ly life -
but what a clas­si­cal impact of the shift from Cir­cle of Con­cern to Cir­cle of Influ­ence!

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